[SIZE=1]Has anyone have any ideas on how to get rid of negative energies left over from jerks who are backstabbing idiots? Unfortunatly for me every time I think I get someone out of my head, they slink back in. I don't want revenge persay, but i want juctice for the wrongs that ex friends or ex lovers have done to me. Please if anybody has ideas or spells they can share that'd be great!

Forgivness. No spells, no incantations, just simple forgivness. Revenge is a tool of the weak. It's as I told someone here a while back, "Like water off a duck's back."

what about for ppl who like never forgive and stuff?

well since I'm like that and I seem tob e going quite well I might aswell say my little secret,
it will never go away, whats done's done, all you can do is use the power of ur mind to make thoughts go away if they pop up unwanted,
but be careful, doing this too much will couse a break-down once in a while :D

Loads of spells but the best thing you can do is to forgive.

Maybe cleanse the space you are in from negativity too. Sea salt water mixture is good for that sprinkled in every corner. Smugging with sage also very effective.

Go through the emotions and let it all out too. Allow yourself to be angry, cry , scream and move on.

I feel ya.. I'm going through the same.

.....so true...

Whistle....you do know how to whistle dontcha....just put your lips together and blow.

O.O

but what if you are cought by the dog-catcher like in those Tom&Jerry cartoons,
or what if Tom gives me a bubblegum dipped in glue,
what should I do then?

learn to let go.
forgive them and yourself.
no longer let it haunt you.
the negative is there through your own doings.

Well thanks guys/gals. It's good to hear words of advice. I just wish that the people knew the pain they put me through. I try to use my mind, but sometimes it's just too cluttered! As for the jerky's out there, I don't want to hurt them back. I want a spell to clear my mind, my negative thoughts. Basically what I need is closure. Do you think I should confront any of these fools. Generally I like to think myself a "happy" person, but I am easily hurt when those I trusted turn against me for no just reason...oh well. Any more input would be great. I feel better already getting this out! Bye for now. I'll keep on whistling in the mean time.

confront the one whithin you first. and when that one is harnessed. then the others forgiveness will come easly

I'm going to be brutally honest here, please don't think I'm coming down on you because I'm not. I've been put through hell on many occasions by those closest to me. Life has taught me one very important lesson, life is a bitch and people will screw you over. 99.9% of the time, they don't need a reason, they just do it. You don't have to like it, you don't have to get used to it, but you do have to deal with it from time to time. How you deal with it varies from person to person, and situation to situation. Sometimes a good "Fuck off and die" will do the trick quite nicely. But with others, you have to just simply grin and bear it then move on. Most times it's as I said earlier, "Like water off a duck's back". It's been my experiance that in most cases it's best to let it go because carrying around a grudge only weighs you down and does more harm to you than anything. Even if you manage to "get even" with someone it brings you down to their level. You have to rise above it all sometimes. Not allowing the offending person to know that something they did bothered you is often times the best revenge of all.

I'm gonna go against the grain here.

If it hurt me that badly, and it was bugging me that much...I'd simply fling the energies back at them, and when I was done, put up a shield.

Forgiveness is a wonderful thing, and in order to get there, you must understand why the person did what they did ..my own form of empathy...but if you can't do that...then you cannot forgive. I know what this is like, as I've been there.

Unfortunately, I cannot tell you how I do the above. I am sorry. Perhaps someone else can give you a detailed explanation if you need it, I'm sure someone around here can.

Yeah I know life's a bitch. And in fact one guy friend who still lingers on my mind recently wasn't always on my mind. He screwed me over and since that day I just never spoke to him again. For a while it felt good, but some things just remind me of him lately. And some other ex-friends too. This one girl...I dubbed her The Evil One...lol, she was my friend, until she stole from me, and backstabbed me, mainly out of jealousy. But a few years later I saw her and just smiled. I think she crapped her pants!

I really don't hold grudges. But I don't like when I can't let go of pain!

How would I go about flinging that enery back?



I think if I confronted these people, I could forgive. I just wish they would come to me with an apology: reality zero.

Thanks for the advice!

I'm relatively new at talking about this...so please bear with me while I attempt to explain.

For me...it is simply a matter of visualizing....and directing. The only time I have ever done it...It was just a matter of redirecting...as the person that I was giving it back to was a psi vamp and didn't realize what I was doing...when I fed him back everything that he had made me feel...he was taking energy from me, without discerning which kind...and got a rather nasty surprise when I redirected only the bad.

However, I'd say it could be done with anyone....it is a matter of finding a link to them....a mental IV if you will, and feeding it to them. Or, if they're not very well shielded...simply visualize...and "fling".

As I said before, I'm not very good at explaining all this, it is something that I have been doing for years, and the way that I was taught to do things....are quite different than what I see of the majority here. In fact...most of what I do...wasn't taught to me at all. I simply do it.

I hope that I've helped at least a little bit, though.

There are Several methods for getting rid of or at least controling negative emotions so they do not well up inside and distroy a person.

Start with the understanding of balance. A lot of good and bad in the world. A lot of the time Blame cannot be assigned. Simply people wanting and there is only so much to go around. Also other people's disires interfer with your own desires. Maybe time to time you only want to be loved by someone who is faithful to you. Their desire to be young and still date other people when barely knowing each other is understandable. The desires conflict. Then it is time to assess the situation. Be selfish. Question if your desires will be met at any time now or in the future.

Now free from blame and excepting of life move on to deal with these feelings. Keeping a hold of hatred, sadness, fear and other emotions protects a person from getting hurt again. They made choices leading to your own choices. Protecting yourself is fair. Sometimes running away is fine or ignoring those who have wronged you. It allows less opportunity for them to do it again. Time to time they are still around. As long as it doesn't Directly affect you, it isn't a problem. Gossip doesn't count. Remember to be selfish. Letting them take control so you spend all day on them instead of yourself will not help anything.

Now burning sage is nice to begin the relaxation stage of meditation. Sit up and simply breath as you normally would enjoying the scent. Get rid of distractions slowly. Turn off the radio, go to the bathroom and/or remove uncomfortable clothing. After feeling comfortable some people may need to light a candle or find an object to look at. Make it something peaceful and simple. Nothing with writing or symbolism on it. Candle, rock, pebble, speck on the wall, bowl of water, pencil, pen whatever it around to focus on.

Start with taking three deep breaths. Inhale through the mouth and exhale through the mouth. Now stretch a little putting your chin against your chest breathing throught the nose. Look up to chosen object. Start inhaling through mouth and exhaling through nose to build up energy. While keeping eyes on object think about your breathing. Concentrate deeper and deeper until you can hear your own heart beat. Listen to it and start think about inhaling good energy in and exhale bad energy. Perhaps think of a key word like love, happiness, strength, etc. . .. Then still looking at focal point, imagine yourself with love for others, happiness or personal strength, etc. . .. When ready to end meditation start taking deep breath through mouth exhaling through the mouth. When you stand up you will feel refreshed.

Another good way to get rid of negative energy is to walk or run. When you take a steps imagine the energy getting stomped out into the ground.

Should also mention after getting rid of negative energy it is easier to be rational and resolve problems with people.

That's a different thread.

Thanks for the ideas...sounds good.

No problem. Hope it works out for you.

An oldie but goodie....

Write the name on paper......again with the paper......hold it and think of all of the 'crap' the person has done. Not with hate, very detatched. Only to help with the release. Bring their image to mind and visualy see your paper 'alive' with their energy.....tense yourself, concentrate on how this negativity is not part of you and you do not accept it in your life. Go to the restroom....ball up the paper....throw it forcefuly into the toilet and flush!!!!!!! State clearly, 'You have no hold on me and no place in my life. BE GONE!'

Then you have to let it go........completely. Let it go.

Look in the mirror and say their name three times....close your eyes then open them and see that which has sent your troubles away.

Self assertion and self reliance are not tools any majii can go without.

Well a while back I did burn things that he wrote me or things I had his name on. It did seem to work for a while but he's creepin back in.

As for the mirror thing I'll have to try that too.

Oh, it's an ongoing thing.....I thought it was in the past and you just needed to let it go.....
You can do a simple binding spell with two mirrors, foil, red thread/cord, a red candle and a black candle. It requires a picture.

Do you have one?

Yeah this jerk hurt me good, I considered him a good friend. We were even more than friends at one point. I did let it go and then just recently I keep "seeing him" around...people who remind me of him.

To answer your question, I don't have a picture. I probably would have burned it by now if I had one. I can picture him clearly in my mind. I have a good memory when it comes to people. I do have an old poem(about friendship)that he gave me...I don't know why I stilll have it. Maybe I hope to see him one day, give it back and say," You are a joke."

It made me sad the last time I read it and that was a while ago. Should I just burn it?

Thanks!