I didn't know where else to post this so I decided to try here (if someone can move it to the appropriate location that would be great :) ). Whether you believe in it or not there are some who share dreams with others. This can be for a variety of reasons ranging from the inability to dream on their own to a pyschic connection to another person. An example would be a parent and child that shared the same dream about an accident coming soon.

One of my more recent dreams shared with another was a nightmare that could be viewed as either prophetic or simply telling them to get more control over their life. You see I've dream shared with the man I am with for the past 4 years. This particular dream frightened him badly. He had come home to find his building had burned to the ground. He lost everything in the fire including his cat. The reason for the fire was arson.

So I got to wondering, what kind of dreams do you share with others? Have you had this experience before?

My girlfriend and I have had similiar dreams before, but untill a valid theory for another explanation comes up, I'm putting it off as the effect of us spending the entire day togetter and going to bed thinking about the same things.

I'd say this should have gone to the arcane studies forum... *edit* it got moved here while typing that

You know I wish I'd thought of that when postin, it comepletely escaped my mind.

Anyway, dream sharing as I said can be anything from simply falling asleep thinking the same thing (as you said) or an actual pyschic experience. it always varies from one account to another, but is interesting thinking. :)

Idid that with my ex once. I usually have completely random dreams, if I go to sleep focusing on pinetrees, I dream about the national american basketballteam making quilts out of orangutang nosehairs. They're totally unpredictable. So we figured, with my dream pattern, and us being connected, and 'in love' and all that, that I would be a good test subject. We decided on a night to try it, a night we would be spending apart. (quite a few to choose from, seeing as we both lived with our parents still)

It was a rather easy method, no spells, chants or funky incences involved, we just took 20 minutes each meditating on the other, or in my case trying to relax and think hard at the same time, meditation has never been my strong side. Then went to bed, keeping the thoughts in our mind. We didn't set a place, setting or anything, just decided we would meet.

Now the interesting part is, not only did it work. I did dream of him, and not some other completely random and in so many ways disturbing scenario. I can't remember it all, but I remember an apartment building with the greenest grass I've ever seen outside, I can still remember the color of it, it was radiant. He dreamed about a large, square house, much the same look, but only one apartment instead of several. And the same slope of grass outside. And we both had a small white mops running around annoying us. We went from the house/apartment building through a park, and was somewhere with a lot of snow and high pyres burning far away. There were other similarities too, and some differences, but nothing major as I can recall. Just minor things. The basic setting of the dream was the same.

I've noticed this with a few others I've talked to about it. No two dreams are ever identical even if shared but there are always similarities. Judging by what you've said I would say that wasn't just a success but a smashing success, not many can will themselves into dream sharing and you both did so without a lot of trouble. It is also interesting that you both had memories of the grass and natural things but not the manmade ones (in referance to the different sizes of the buildings). Anyway, I'm glad you shared such a successful experiment.

Anyone else want to let loose and give an example? :)

I forgot to add this in, silly me. Usually when i dream share with another I pick a very specific place as a designation. The place is an enormous rose garden with blooms of every color known to man. I have yet to hear someone that has done an experiment with this garden not come back with at least one memory of a different colored rose. It is an interesting experiment to say the least.

me and one of my friends share sex dreams.....

Yes, I say that it does happen. It is not limited to dreams though. For example, one might have visions/images and another will dream them at roughly the same time. Even with people who never physically met. Also, it can extend to thoughts and other things too and sometimes very specific. I guess this is distinctive from merely having the same dream though. For instance, I once had one somewhat like the one you gave (at least in theme).

Basically, after other sequences (I usually have many related sequences that come one after another), I had one where a small electrical fire occured in my old childhhood house. I saw that the fire dept was there as I was coming home [another sequence] from playing a very strange game of chess (both sides were the same color, one extra row of animals, the peices "castled' abnormally, etc - very odd) with "someone". After coming in I asked the fireman "which entrance did you use to enter?" and he said "the side". I was worried about my cats being okay and running away because of the fire and was relieved because they did not and all was okay. It was a minor fire that aparrently started in the upstairs bathroom (the walls were peeling/melted there). This one had to have been a few years ago now.

Sometimes I think people just have the same symbolism within the dreams, nothing seemingly directly connected. But other times it is really hard to deny after you actually experience it a few times in a row and can come up with no alternate explanations. If you two have this type, that is a good sign, especially if it occurs without intention or manipulation - that is naturally.

You have to also take into account time differences in some cases for one being awake and experiencing the dreams of another. Even differing sleep patterns influences this.

Fire is a very common dream, I will admit to that. But when you share a dream with someone about something like a fire or even a death (yes we've shared these as well) it gets very interesting. An example, the year he and I started dating we both had dreams that corresponded, one in particular was more memorable. His father (now dead for a year) had come to his house and had taken him by force as he was waiting for me and my daughter to arrive. we arrived by taxi not even 15 seconds later to find the door open and no one home.

Partners who naturally dream share usually find very unique views in the shared dreams. You can see an example above. Another example (and not a first hand one) is that of a friend I lost contact with years ago. She and her husband were staying in different houses and each dreamed of the room the other was in and saw their partner reach out to them and call their name. needless to say the next morning I was there when she called him and told him about the dream.

The gentleman I am seeing and I have shared dreams for a lot longer than we have known each other and yes we have gone back and tested this theory. He and I share a similar sleep cycle even though we are several states apart. I have to admit, I can not dream on my own and haven't been able to for quite some time due to medical reasons. All I know is that the nights where I actually do dream he will tell me detail for detail what happened as our dream played out. I say our simply because it was not my own.

I'm going to stop now before this gets longer. Very good points though, thanks for adding them :cofpap:

You're welcome.

Yes, I believe very much in this sort of thing, without question of occurance.

Actually, I'm not sure if this quite fits this. But, something similar is being able to astral project and go into others dreams. It's called Dreamwalking..It's actually a form of telepathy.. But, it's not exactly like sharing a dream with another,..

i've shared dreams with one of my friends before, i just think it was becuase we had an unbelievable connection.

My sister and I have lots of dreams that are the same..
We had the same dream once where a family member of ours died..and than ofcourse they did die..
My dreams are usually fore warnings of what will happen..Its pretty cool.

The major difference between dreamwalking and dream sharing is that dream sharing does not involve astral projection. I have done both and dreamwalking takes a heavy toll after a while. Both have their high and low points.

I have noticed in my own studies of this that most often those who dream share do as you and your sister. The bond between siblings, parents, and basically any family member is a far stronger bond than that of most friends and partners which makes it easier to share things like dreams and even visions.

As for prophetic dreams these again most often happen with those possessing strong bonds with another. A good example is my mother. She had gone into the army and was away at boot camp when her grandmother died of cancer. The night her grandmother died my mom had a dream of it happening. To this day she regrets not being able to say good bye.

It's always a good sign of who your true friends are to have an experience such as this. Sharng dreams with your friends becomes a form of connection that lasts a very long time and can be an early warning if something happens to them. You're very lucky that the two of you share such a strong connection :)

In most of the experimentation my partner and I have done, we've decided against setting a particular scape prior to attempting the share. Both of us are too well aware of the minds ability to focus on something like that and as a result, we would both dream about the same place or setting...but would it be an actual successful connection? Or just the subconscious doing what it does best?

Personally, I feel the method Clear and her partner used least likely to be tainted by preset imagery or ideas…always have to make certain your controls aren’t going to interfere with the experiment at hand.

yes you can dream share
dream walk
dream scry
dream message
there are manything within the area of dreaming one can do.
it is but (if you will define it as such) an aspect of the astral planes / realms ect...

I ask them to meet me in a specific place, simply put. It is what comes after meeting there that is the interesting part. You see, I only tell them what the place is supposed to be not what is in it. I have had people describe to me colors of flowers there, of types of trees and so on. The thing everyone seems to remember is what the place is, a garden. To this day only three people have had similar memories of a large house nearby (the actual size varying from one person to another) and a large tree with a seat beneath it at the center of the garden. Though no one remembers the exact same thing as another may they all come back with one point or another that is similar.